How giving 100% gives you LESS stress
If you give your 100%, you can never fail.
I got stuck, this week.
I was so stressed, I lost track of my to-do list and I realized I couldn’t keep my promises the way that I want it.
Life Plan Design is not kickstarting the way I want it.
I want every person that ordered the book to actually get it, which is a lot more work than I expected AND I want to take care of the existing community AND I want to take Nisandeh’s powerful legacy into companies AND I decided to give a one-time open seminar that I need to fill.
Next, to that, I need to properly close my marriage, find daycare for the kids, handle new privacy rules and train for the Rotterdam marathon.
OK, enough whining.
I used to be sloppy pretty much all my life. I got away with it, usually. But now, I can’t, anymore. I made promises, and I didn’t keep them because I was too busy doing other very important things. I missed deadlines and I made too many mistakes.
Do you recognize this? Or am I the only one? What happens is this: while I’m cooking I’m thinking about what the blog needs to be about, while having a conversation with my oldest about something very important, such as why the Milky Way is called the Milky Way, I’m checking my mailbox on my phone. And while I am preparing a piece of the Masterclass my mind wanders off to my personal situation, stressing out about how much there still is to do.
So… I remembered something I learned from Nisandeh and decided to test it.
It’s a powerful system that, as soon as I implemented it, instantly made a huge difference. So I really, really want to share it with you.
The first thing I had to do: make a commitment to be fully aware, focused, diligent and unsloppy in everything I do.
The second action: set an alarm on my phone, every hour. The alarm is the trigger to check myself. How engaged am I, and how engaged was I in the past hour? And if I was not as engaged as I wanted, spend a few seconds on how to improve my engagement for the coming hour. What are my plans, and what do I want to get out of it?
My tasks for the next couple of hours were: clean the house, spend quality time with my kids, make lunch and dinner and bake muffins.
I followed the instructions and this is what happened.
My muffins were looking fantastic and tasting even better! I never baked muffins like that. (I never baked muffins in my life, so not sure how they would be without being so engaged, but I chose to take it as a signal;)). But it wasn’t just that.
Usually, when I clean the house, I clean it in a way that it looks clean. Now, I cleaned it and it FELT clean. And the difference that being aware and present and giving my 100% makes for reading a bedtime story or even brushing children’s teeth is a completely new experience!
What amazed me the most, was that I still managed to get everything done. No, wait. I MANAGED to get everything done, contrary to the lifestyle I’m used to, hopping around from one task to another without being aware… and giving me so much stress in the meantime.
. Sometimes I suck at what I am teaching. But implementing it, and seeing results like this…
it’s soothing to realize that I am capable of doing it differently. So, for the coming weeks, I commit to being present and aware and giving my 100%. And I promise to check myself every waking hour to see if I am “ON”.
Now tell me…how’s your stress level? What is stressing you out right now? Please share in the comments your current stress challenge…maybe we can help each other.
I’m giving away ONE ticket to my (mind you: it’s in DUTCH!) “Is Dit Alles” Masterclass on April 15, to one of the blog commenters.
Now.. talking about the “Is Dit Alles” Masterclass.
As you have read, I also fail every now and then. But I do know there is more to life than work, and I know that it’s possible to start living your Dream Life – now. You don’t have to wait for the future. So if you want to do your yearly checkup, to check if you’re spending your time on the right things- the things that matter to you, be there.
I will teach you what I learned and implemented so far. But I am far from having arrived yet. (I’m glad, since I think it’s boring there:))
I’d love to meet you there. I’ll give my 100%.
Take the discount code “dreamlpd” and:
Looking forward to meeting you there!
Live fully and be awesome…