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Vered Neta
As I shared in my last blog post, Nisandeh’s and Vered’s biggest vision, dreams and passions, are on the verge of becoming a reality.
And it’s seriously so freaking exciting!
I don’t know how. But I think I know why.
Because their message deserves to be shared.
I want to be
They just took the first step into making a big blast in the world.
While Nisandeh and Vered changed the lives of tens of thousands of people with their business and personal growth material, Vered always had a deeper purpose… empowering women. For many years she
A few years ago, Vered wrote and published an amazing book, called “Financial independence for women”.
It’s not a book about investment or financial advice.
But it shows how we all, men and women, cut ourselves short in life, especially when it comes to money issues.
How often did you catch yourself thinking that somebody else, your partner, or your boss, or even your landlord, should fix your financial problem?
It’s not about money, it’s about your power to change and solve those issues.
It’s a book that will empower you, to take your own responsibility, and take care of your own business. You are the only one that can do it, and you are the only person you need to become financially free.
Vered just came out with an improved edition of the book, and the best part is that… for the first time EVER, one of the books of Nisandeh and Vered is available as a Kindle book… so you can take it with you wherever you go.
And, even better news… for a few days only… it’s available for only 99 cents.
I bought the physical book a few years back and I read it cover to cover in one sitting. But the moment I heard from Vered that the second edition is available for Kindle, I immediately downloaded it, and I urge you to do the same. And don’t just download it… READ it. And don’t only read it… IMPLEMENT it.
It will change your life!
You can download it HERE for only 99 cents if you’re fast (normal price will be 14,39).
Money is such a trigger for us.
All triggered by what we believe about money.
If you dare to admit that you too are held back in your life by what you believe about money, then please, I beg you. Buy the book. Woman or man.
Now… the journey these two amazing people are traveling is
I told you… you don’t want to miss out. They’re back.
Nisandeh and Vered are going to start over with a very small but active, participating tribe. When you’re part of the tribe, you’ll have the possibility to communicate directly via the comments in the blog posts, and they’ll deliver extra content for you (not to mention that you might be invited to join them in their Garden of Eden in Tenerife for a week… all expenses paid).
All of that is cool, but You. Just. Want. To. Be. There. Trust me:)
So join in with me and fill in the form below… let’s make the world a better place, together.
What are your limiting or negative beliefs about money, wealth and rich people? Please share it in the comments box below… and Vered will read your comments and offer her insights…
PS. I know many of you got used to me communicating in Dutch. I won’t anymore. So please- write your comments in English, make sure your first and your last name are visible AND show a picture of your face so we know with whom we actually communicate.
Live fully and be awesome…
Gerdy
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Hi Vered (and Nisandeh!) I’m so glad to hear from you again. My most limiting belief is daring to ask. I realised it was there when you started your life in Tenerife, I didn’t dare to ask you how you were doing although I was very curious. I dare to travel alone in the most dangerous regions of the world. Dare to be vulnerable, dare to take certain risks, dare to take charity leadership positions… And a don’t dare to ask what I’m worth for. I still think what I’m doing is nothing special, I don’t dare to change my mindset from ‘helper’ to ‘problem fixer’. It makes me angry and gives me a lack of self-confidence on this topic. It drives a gap between asking what I’m worth and being underpaid. This is driven by fear that I can’t pay my employees (6 therapists) anymore when I take the step.
Greetings, Saskia van der drift
Hi Saskia,
I think you’ll discover that this is a repeated issue with women. In my book there is a whole chapter about it.
For now I’ll ask you to think on the following question:
“What kind of woman would you be if you would NOT have a problem to ask for what you’re worth?”
Then ask yourself: “ do you REALLY know what you’re worth?”
And last question “ what would you advise your own daughter to do…”
Many thanks for replying.
The woman I would be is a much more relaxed type of myself. Still hard working but fierce and not unconfident of my own capabilities (like: ‘what I do everybody can do…’), I always thought I was worth what the insurance company is paying me, the last month’s I realised I’m worth much more and the duality between both thoughts is harsh at the moment.
If I had a daughter I would advise her to see around what others do and don’t. And model the ones who are very successful, find the niche in the big Ocean that fits her talents and value herself in that area that feels comfortable for her without the urge to walk on the tip of her toes. Stretching her comfortzone is recommended in this way.
Hi Vered, I have an investment group with a lot of women in it (I think 200 or 300 hundred). I will send the link today to them. Maybe you can say something to them.
Hi Vered,
Great to see you also returned!
Currently my most limiting beliefs about money would be the beliefs that “I dont need much more money to live the life I want, and money is not that important to me”…
Although the first one may have to do with the fact that I’m living with my parents, I still can’t imagine that I would need large paychecks in the future, as long as I keep prioritizing my expenses…
As for the second one, most of the time when I think about earning more money my mind immediately goes “but that means work, which means less freedom to do whatever I want or like to do, and that freedom is more important to me than money, so clearly money is not so important to me”. Both of these beliefs are sabotaging me, so I’ll warmly welcome your advice to help me move in the right direction to improving on these beliefs.
I also noticed that I checked my bank account less and less (avoider-type move?), but I do use the money management system. I think this has something to do with my beliefs as well but I’m not sure what it means.
Big hug from Hanke
Hi Hanke,
One of the most limiting beliefs people have, when it comes to money, is “money is not that important for me”.
If you would have said that about your partner or a friend, how long would that friend or partner stay with you? I guess not long, same with money.
But here is my question to you… How much of your potential are you using when you limit yourself to the bank account you currently have?
Imagine what you could create and contribute to the world if you were financially free, how many more people you could support and help if you had all the money you needed to do it.
Right now you are looking only at yourself and your lifestyle, but what would happen if you start looking from a bigger picture and see the possibilities of supporting others. Then money does become important.
As long as you believe that money is not important you do not have the means to truly go out and become as big as you can be and fulfill your potential
Well, my moneymindset seems to change a lot since last year. I’ve done a lot of inside work on money, tackled certain beliefs (I’m not really worth al lot (of money), I’m not meant to be wealthy, I’m not able to make a lot of money, etc), went to the Financial Freedom intensive twice, but it all (finally!) seems to be happening now, the belief that I AM worthy and able to be wealthy. Why NOT me? I’m starting to believe it’s possible for me and my whole mindset is changing. I see possibilities and mostly I feel a lot of confidence and trust. I can see my business and bankaccount grow. So cool!
Hi Anouk,
That’s so cool to hear that. So proud of you for taking the steps to change your mindset and take the actions that are needed.
The world certainly needs YOU and what you’ve got to give. That’s what Financial Independence is all about!
When you are free from money fears you are able to focus on what you have to give to the world and give it in abundance
Thank you, Vered! So true what you wrote. I feel that my lifework is bubbling up now and I’m preparing to bring it to the world. Indeed it is about giving, literally. I’m excited and can’t wait, but it still needs a little more time… I tend to say: Come on, women, let’s all do this, but I also know we can’t force it. But I feel very much that the time has come, a new period of time has begun. New ways of thinking, of moneymaking, of living, have started. I’m thrilled that I’m alive at this specific moment and thankful for the possibilities and chances I get and the privilege of being born in this country as a woman. Namaste
Hi Vered!
A few minutes ago, I tried to download your book; is it true that one *has* to create an Amazon-account to be able to download it…?
As for finances: I’m in a specific sector of the healthcare field, where it is not easy to make a really decent income. Once I finish my master’s (this summer), I do intend to find new ways, however, of earning an income with my knowledge and competencies by entering new territories and working together with new people in my grassroots niche! I feel the work I do is so important (making sure children get off to a good start in life), but market fundamentalism and hegemonic discourse on individualism often make the new paradigm look like a very distant idea that society as it is right now, does not want to spend too much money on. What could I do about that, you think? Looking forward to your reply!
Hi Marianne,
First, yes, you do need an Amazon account in order to download the book….
Ss for your question, notice how you limit yourself to what is called the “common sense”. I do agree 90% of health care employees are paid outrageously low salaries, but that does not mean that you can’t earn better.
What if you start looking beyond the “common sense” of how you get paid? What if you make your price list for you services? What if you create such a remarkable product that people would stand in line to get that service for you.
If your service is focused on giving children the best start in life, do you know ANY parent that would NOT want to get it and will be willing to PAY anything for it…
STOP limiting yourself to what exist out there and start thinking in possibilities and not limitations.
Since I realized the unlimited options and abundance of life many things have changed positively: a very nice job and more financial stability.
Deep inside there is a fear and a limiting belief of having much money: ‘I don’t deserve it. It is sinful. I do know where it comes from: my dogmatic Christian upbringing and I’m disappointed that I have not released it yet. Although I KNOW it is not true, I still FEEL the limitation of that belief.
Thank you Vered, that you highlight this topic, so that I can take on this challenge. May be you have a suggestion to overcome this?
Hi Ingrid,
The belief that Money is Evil is one of the oldest limiting belief that we have to “Thank” the religious institutes for it… It would be a harder one to change as it is such an ancient one and is not just in our mind but in our cell memories. However, awareness is the first step to doing it, so congratulate yourself for it.
The only way would be to create RESULTS that contradict that belief and would start shaking the foundation of it, by focusing on the places where it has done the opposite.
Ask yourself where is money being used for GOOD? Start looking at all the places where money has brought happiness, health, joy, beauty and good. Start focusing on how YOU could use your money in creating such values and see how you could bring MORE of it.
Once you’ve done it, acknowledge yourself for doing it and that would deal also with the deserving part.
In the book there are more ways you can change those beliefs, so try them out and I would love to hear how it worked for you
One of the questions I have is: why is there so much inequality in income in society, which is even increasing continuously in the last few decades. I have a strong feeling this is getting out of hand if nothing is done. How can we, as a society, keep this under control? I believe money and resources should be divided more equally among people, and the fact that I think too much about that may be my limiting factor of earning (a lot of) money myself.
I often ask myself, what can I do to contribute to finding even a tiny bit of a solution for this big question for mankind and what can I do to create my own income in such a way that I will have more time to make a more meaningful contribution to society.
There is a lot more to say about this, even a week in the Tenerife mountains may not be enough I‘m afraid.
Please feel free to reply me if you like and – who knows – maybe we’ll find a way to put a step forward.
Dear Evert,
Fantastic question, but here is my respond – how about you look at it from a higher perspective… right now it seems you are under the impression that life is not fair and everyone needs to have the same amount of money.
What if – Life is not Fair, but Life is ABUNDANCE….
I’m not saying that I disagree with you that the gap between the rich and the poor is increasingly growing each day and that we need to find solutions to it, but how about you first attend to making sure that YOU live in abundance and then take care of the rest of the world… It’s like they say in the safety instructions on the plane – “first put the oxygen mask on you and then attend to you child…”
Because I still attract people with money issues I must still have internal money issues myself.
I was an absolute avoider in combination with a safer. I changed the avoiding part by monitoring my finances and use the jar system so I do spend just for fun.
I wonder why yesterday my financial overview Exel-sheets disappeared on my laptop. Maintenance will check it out today. I don’t believe in coincidences and I wonder what the connection is between that and this blog.
Last year was dominated by bad health and consequently low income. The results where far from what I wanted them to be. What worry’s me is that there is no medical prognose for my health. That influences my working decisions, I tend to safe and postpone instead of making (big) investments. So that is my biggest issue.
Dear Margreet,
First, well done for overcoming your Avoider behavior. That should just show you that you are able to overcome those things that limit you. As you brilliantly wrote there are no coincidences in life and life would show you what you need to look at…
What you want to have a look is whether you believe you are worthy of having what you wish for. It seems as if anytime you overcome an obstacle you are unconsciously creating another one that would limit you, whether it is in health issues, or other issues.
Thanks for your comment Vered. Might be you are right about unwillingly creating new obstacles. I can recognize that pattern. While answering this, I find a conviction that I was not aware of before. ‘People won’t pay’. I am worth it and what I offer is worth the price. When I mirror this to myself I find myself often unwilling to pay for things. The saver in me always tells me to reconsider, look for another option, don’t spend. I will contact my inner saver and listen to what she has to say, what she can tell me.
Other questions that I will ask myself are: ‘What is the reason that I do not create health? And what overview do I miss?’
Dear Margreet,
You’re the only one that would know the answers to your inner questions. No one knows you better than YOU. Start trusting it. Maybe once you do that you’ll find the reasons for you health issues.
As for the belief of “People would not pay” obviously if you’re not willing to pay why would people pay YOU… It doesn’t mean that you need to become a spender and pay for everything, but just realize you would attract the people that behave similar to you, until you change the way you handle that issue.
Ask yourself HOW can I attract people who would pay me what I deserve to get
Thanks again Vered,
Nisandeh told me that I have the answers but that I have to ask the right questions. That feels true. I totally trust the answers that I get from my inner self, higher self, my divine, the universe or how you like to name it. Thanks for the conversation, it provides questions that I will take into account. They do give a direction for my questioning. Only the right questions will give the answers that will help me further.
Hi Vered,
Thank you for this update. When I use the link, Amazon tells me this is not available for my country (Belgium).
Hi Therese,
This link might work better for you: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07N7GHRXR, this is the American Amazon store. We Dutch people are not allowed to buy books on the US Amazon store. Please tell me if this works for you?
It works but it’s a different price. I had no idea you cannot order on Amazon USA. We can but if we order books, we have to pay import taxes.
The price is in $ and it’s around 0,99 in euro.
ok, bought it!
What if my partner doesn’t want the same or support my beliefs about money? He believes that only by working you can have income. I show him different already – first seeing is believing. But I feel limited as I take my partner in consideration for my life and so also our lives together. It is possible this is a woman’s ‘thing’.
Hi Boukje,
This is truly one of the main challenges women have… trying to combine their mindset with their partner’s.
If you are already creating passive income as opposite to his idea of only working income, then, first of all, be proud of it and acknowledge yourself for it. Celebrate it, even without him.
Ask yourself – how would handle your finance if he isn’t there… life is unpredictable and tomorrow he might not be in your life (not necessarily because he or you want it..) How would you conduct your finances then?
Hi Elske,
This is a great question and one of the main reasons people are not able to achieve the wealth they wish for.
However, what if you change your question to” “How Would YOU like to have YOUR life when you are rich and financially independent and free?”
Have a look what would happen to your creativity when you ask this question. It’s all about YOUR life, so it doesn’t matter how other rich people are living, it’s what you want to create in YOUR life.
Would be great to hear your description to that question
Hi Vered,
Thank you, this helps immensely! Of course, you are absolutely right 🙂 I needed to hear this perspective.
When I am rich and financially independent and free we have the (bought for) house of our dreams, we are living on a budget, we donate 20% of our income to charity via a foundation (and I would be able to do all these things if my husband should leave me or die), I have a team of around 10 people working for me, we drive an electric/hydrogen car and electric motorcycle, I invest in a green motorcycle racing team, the company has a stable stream of income, is profitable and grows year over year.
Part of this is already true, but needs to stay true of course. I will think of this some more.
Hi Elske,
Great description! Now have a look around you and start looking for people that might be living some of that type of life and get to know them so you could learn from them how to do that.
hai, hopefully this comment will be understandably in my ‘duchy English’.
Beliefs I have I know of (!) are:
I have to be together with my spouse to ‘ earn’ a living
at my age (54) after fulltime raising a family, I never can earn as much a (my) man (i have not enough time left)
wealth for me has more to do with being happy with what you have than money; wealth has to be shared.
rich people have to have a strong mind and live divine principles to stay happy, and that’s difficult.
Hi Maria,
Have a look at how you phrase your question and see how limiting you are to yourself, not necessarily even on the wealth issue… you write that you “HAVE to be together with your spouse… ” (I believe you mean in Dutch “moet”)… isn’t that a limiting belief for your relationship?
You say: ” I NEVER can earn as much as (my) man”…. isn’t that a limiting belief about your abilities to be financially independent”
You say: “At my AGE (54)…” isn’t that a limiting belief about your age…
Ask yourself the question – HOW could you achieve what you wish if you had an empowering mindset that would allow you to create the life that you dream of…
My limiting belief is: I do not really know how rich people live, therefore I cannot paint my picture of how it is to live and be rich.
I know this is limiting me and I know it is not true, I do not know (cannot imagine) what is true however, so I am very interested in what Vered has to say about this!