it’s impossible…
Impossible is just a word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it
Muhammad Ali
I fired the last person who told me it’s impossible.
My heart stopped for a moment when Nisandeh reminded me. Because I told him that it was impossible… not just once.
My mind wandered back to the end of the Breakthrough to Success, right after I broke my board. I remembered being so full of adrenaline and pride… I yelled ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!
Somehow I forgot it along the line. I felt embarrassed.
I told him in the last week…
I can’t do it, I don’t have enough time.
It’s so hard to combine running a business with being a single mom and renovating my house at the same time.
I can’t afford it anymore.
All different ways of saying
1. It’s difficult.
2. I can’t do it.
3. it’s impossible.
Nisandeh didn’t fire me. Instead, he took the time to explain what I’m doing when I tell him one of the above sentences – and why it’s keeping me small…
It was one of the most painful, and valuable lessons I got.
I believe, that I can’t do it. I don’t dare to tell him that I don’t know how to do it, or that I lost my enthusiasm and commitment, so instead, I accuse him of giving me too much work.
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Since you probably also every now and then think that it’s all so difficult, that you can’t do it or that it’s even impossible, let me share what Nisandeh taught me how to change it.
Questions to ask when things look impossible
Nisandeh asked me the following questions.
1. If my kids’ lives were at stake, could I then do it?
The answer to this question was yes…
So instead of getting an impossible job, I was just a lazy, whiny kid complaining about the workload. Trying to blame it on somebody else.
This question is just a more confronting way of asking IS IT TRUE?
2. HOW can I make it possible?
Changing the question to an open one, helped to start looking at the possibilities… and got my creative juices flowing. Because instead of blocking myself of achieving anything, I started to look at how I would make it happen….. And it was suddenly a lot less hard than I thought.
Telling yourself it’s impossible, keeps you small. Keeps you mediocre. In your comfort zone.
If you want to Live By Design – life the life you want, you HAVE to deal with this blocking belief.
Did you ever dream of something and keep calling it a dream because you think that it will never happen?
You don’t have to…
Nisandeh will start teaching again, as you probably heard by now. One of the topics – HOW to make impossible things possible.
If you dare to dream big… and you want to know HOW it is possible to live the life you always dreamed of, make sure you are on the list.
Nisandeh will give an intensive retreat on how to create your Life Plan Design, and make it into reality. How to create a life full of passion and purpose.
If this retreat is exactly what you need, make sure you fill in your details in the form below.
However- the retreat is only for 12 people. And there are thousands of other people on the mailing list. If you want to be part of it, then realize there will be a rigorous admission process… so register, and start thinking… HOW would you make this retreat possible for you?
What is the ONE thing that you would love to do or achieve, and what is the reason why you think it’s hard, or even impossible? please SHARE in the comments box BELOW…Nisandeh will read each and every
Live fully and be awesome
Gerdy
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Hi Nisandeh, I would like to be successful without efforts, to let go efforts in life and flow gently with life. It appears impossible for me, I am in the middle of a separation that I don’t decide and everything appears harder. I have the sensation that I have always to make efforts to achieve things and sometimes even with efforts doesn’t work!
kisses
thank you
Be happy and full of energy
Silvia
Here’s how I see life, Silvia…
Life IS. All the time… Life just IS.
From the beginning of time till the end of time… Life IS.
If you say “yes” to whatever happens in Life… there will be no effort.
Effort only happens when you resist what is happening in Life.
But since Life IS… Any resistance is futile.
Meditate on this for a while… and experiment with saying “yes” more often to what appears in your Life…
Hug, Nisandeh
THANKS, THIS MAKE ME MORE QUITE AND GIVE ME A GOOD SUGGESTION
KISSES
Silvia
By the end of 2017 there was a slight chance I would play in a tv series (very famous worldwide) for three episodes. It didn’t happen. But I was close to experiencing that it is possible.
And that’s what I want, to be a well paid, much hired international actor.
It is hard and maybe even impossible not knowing the right people, not being self confident enough or being scared I might not be able to deliver when push comes to shove.
The “not being good enough syndrome” is something that – to my great surprise – even famous artists can suffer from.
Hey Robert,
Not only famous artists suffer from the “not good enough syndrome” as you call it, but people from all walks of life.
It only really matters when you choose not to take the actions you know you should take – because of feeling “not good enough”.
When you realize that, the tool Gerdy shared above is the perfect antidote…
When you know what you need to do to move forward, but you choose not to do it – imagine that your life (or your kid’s life) depends on you doing this…
If you take it seriously… it would work…
Hug, Nisandeh
I want to switch to another job but need to do a study and gain experience in that field. I work 36 hrs and have financial shortage. So can’t work less.
Also have my kid with problem with school and want my own life to start again…. Have to do a lot. Want to start with volunteer work in the field to gain experience which costs minimal half a day on which I can’t work. But I will go on…
But it’s hard to combine everything because my house needs repairs which costs money and time etc etc.
All signals tell me I have to do the switch. I’ m at a fork in the road and have to choose …. go for it.
I have been working as an employee for the last couple of years to make sure I got out of debt and change my financial situation for the better. It worked out pretty well but I still want to create something for myself. I can work 4 days a week instead of 5 while earning the same and I took the step to start a new business. But the time and energy I have for creating my business is still very limited and I often wonder if I am ever going to reach my goals.
One moment I’m convinced that I will make it in the end and at other times I have a hard time believing it…
It’s not about reaching your goals, Dave.
It’s about who you become and what you create in the process.
If you can give one day a week to a business that is going to make a difference… I’d say, “go for it”.
Let life show you where to go from there…
Hug, Nisandeh
Thanks, Nisandeh.
That makes sense.
Hug,
Dave
I have lost the conviction that my goal is impossible. It makes the focus easier, but it is still not easy to accomplice. I take baby steps toward my goal and sometime it feels like I take two steps forward and one step backwards. For some reason, I believe that I cannot do it easy or fast. When I see others go easy and fast there is an inside voice saying that that is not for me. That fast and easy progress is impossible for me. I see the impact of that conviction. Thanks for the question!
It all depends on your values, Margreet.
Are “easy” and “fast” your guiding values or do you have other values which are more important for you.
When you judge your progress based on those values or in comparison to others, you guarantee to be suffering…
Something to think about.
Hug, Nisandeh
Building my team of ten employees/team members will be hard. Not impossible and something I am actually looking forward to, but I need to put it out here in order not to pull the plug and then just go “well, guess this was not for me”. Because it is easier to stay small than to do big for me for some reason.
It’s all a matter of your values, Elske.
“Taking it easy” is a value. We tend to judge it as a “bad” or “mediocre” value… but it is just a judgement.
“Going big” is another value.
Just pick the value you prefer and go for it…
Hug, Nisandeh
Thank you! That helps.
Right now, finishing my Master’s degree is scaring the sh** out of me, seeing all the genius minds around me in my class and really asking myself whether I can do this as well. I’ve come as far as this, though, and I won’t quit. It may take longer, but I will definitely finish it.
I also want to be really, fully present when our third and fourth grandchild will be born later this year.
The issue, in general: combining the ambition to contribute to making a real, paradigm-shifting difference regarding society’s early childhood views and policies AND spending more relaxed and relaxing time on my social life that includes my husband, our (grand)children, and friends and others. Part of the problem is, I guess, that I let myself be distracted too much…
My (seemingly) impossible big dream is to live and work in a mansion/castle (estate) with some friends/zzp-ers and make this place completely self-supporting. Everyone will have a skill to enable us to do so, like gardening, cooking, maintenance, construction work, etc.
We also all have our own business to run and will help and support each other through mastermind sessions and/or work together on projects.
We will exploit the house/estate by organizing dance- and music parties, workshops, display movies, wine tastings, diners with a theme, business events, etc. Many friends love the idea for we will also be able to take care of each other in a later stage in life. I just don’t know where to begin.
Step one, Madelene, get a commitment.
Put €100 in a new bank account and get each one of your “many friends who loved the idea” to put a €100 in the same account, in order to have the first seed money.
If any of your friends (or you) refuse to put the money for WHATEVER reason… they are not serious and should be excluded from any future discussion.
When enough friends put €100, move to phase 2… a meeting to discuss the vision and purpose of the place…
Hug, Nisandeh
Communicate my mission in a way, that I really touch the heart of mothers so they get inspired and are eager to learn more about Conscious Parenting. I find myself in a constant search for this, not knowing how to embed this totally instead of losing mothers as my deeper message is: you can get rid of frustration, emotional storms and conflict and raise happy kids if you choose love and work on yourself 🙂
Hi Yvonne,
Not sure why you find communicating your mission difficult or impossible… it sounds straightforward and appealing…
Hug, Nisandeh
Yes, it does to me too, but working on yourself might not be the message mothers want to hear, there’s a lot of resistance to that. They hear ‘you’re not doing it right’, that’s what I notice and what other people tell me to take care of. And as I’m quite straightforward, I got a bit frightened to tell it like it is. I find it hard to listen completely and ask questions and let mothers find out themselves the answers in a way, or something like that. Solving, giving the answers is more automatically coming up. The message ‘work on yourself (instead of on your kid)’, is too confronting and resistance and denial make me lose them. On the other hand there are more people who are straightforward and confronting in a way, and they are popular. So I don’t know how to find a mix of being myself, finding my unique way of communicating my mission/message and in the meantime appeal to many mothers. I love humor but find it hard to put it in my message. So it’s more finding my own, unique way of communicating which is in the meantime loving and appealing :-). Do I make myself clear or am I too confusing right now :-D.
Every now and then, I really start to believe I am really doing good in the Voice-over business. And that I am becoming a real professional in this area. Then I can see myself doing the big jobs and teaching others the skills and sharing my experience. That would be great!! So my dream is, really being successful as a Voice-over, with a stable career. I believe I can do that. But I also know that there is still a lot to learn and mistakes and failures to make, to reach my full potential! And I find myself again and again NOT doing the things I know I have to do, to get there! I keep playing safe, let doubt take over, choose other things instead to spend my time at, etc etc. I have got a great life, with a lot of freedom and flexibility. And sometimes I think that maybe I am scared to lose that, when (I think) to be successful, I have to spend most of the time on work. But that is probably an excuse for keep myself small 🙂 ….
Don’t tell yourself stories, Wietske,
If you “have a great life” as you write above… there is no reason to change anything.
If you have a “good life”, then you have all the reasons in the world to change…
When you know what life you’re having, it will be easier to make choices and stand for them.
Hug, Nisandeh
Last night I realized something very important. I’m organizing a workshop and the little voice in me used to say: what if people do attend, or, when people attend …
Yesterday I realized I was thinking from a place of lack (attendees).
In thinking that way, I am not honoring myself, my ancestors and the clients.
I have to start from a place of abundance whatever happens.
That’s a good place to start from, Marleen.
Another place (my favorite) is realizing that life IS.
Whatever you experience in life is just IS. It’s not good or bad, a lot or a little, abundance or lack… it just IS.
A very peaceful place to operate from.
Hug, Nisandeh
Thank you Nisandeh. I’ll think about that one.
Happy for you to be back 🙂
Marleen
I’m building a digital publishing company that teaches people how they can function and perform optimally in an ever faster changing world. One of my major goals is to innovate on the way personal development expertise is delivered so that it becomes a lot more effective. My limiting beliefs are/were mainly about language and location because going into a global marketplace means big competition from established players, whilst staying small and local feels safer.
What’s wrong, Bert, with starting small and local, but with a GLOBAL strategy…?
It worked well to Mark Zuckerberg, when he started Facebook – one college at a time…
Think about it.
Hug, Nisandeh
I do not think (some/most) things are impossible, it’s just that I cannot push myself to actually go for it. There are always (mostly valid) reasons to not fully commit. And I always doubt if it really is what I truly want. The past year went really well, I have solved some long time issues and made some major steps toward my financially free future. I am now exploring new opportunities to get closer to that goal. Probably my next step is to resume working freelance in the application development/maintenance and support field. But that would imply ending my current company and I am just not ready for that, yet…
One of the things, Maurice, that get us stuck is that we believe that there’s one way (or a limited number of ways) to achieve a result.
If I were you, I would challenge that belief.
Make it a point to come up with at least 10 ways you can use to become totally financially free, in addition to the one you already figured out…
Hug, Nisandeh
My wish is to write books and sell them online, teaching others to write books, teaching others, teaching kids.
Everyday life gets in the way. Need to make money to pay mortgage, food and keep my kids clothed. Accepting jobs I don’t want to do, ending up resenting myself for it and missing the time to write. See the circle… ?!
Two things I’d consider, Esther:
1. Dedicating one day (or two evenings) a week to do the work you want to do… while keeping the other days for the works that pays the bills today.
2. Start appreciating yourself for doing whatever it takes to take care of your family (what’s the use of punishing yourself for it?)
Hug, Nisandeh
Hi Nisandeh, good to hear from you again. Thank you for your input. For a few weeks now I know it is time to change some things. This was and is the first step.
#1 is important and already being implemented.
#2 is, as far as I know for myself, way more important. Time to see things as they are, I am taking care of my family and that is a good thing.
Whenever I start resenting myself for the odd jobs I do not like, instead of doing what I love I will say this mantra: I am taking care of my family.
Thank you for helping me see things from a different presepctive.
Hug Esther
Start / open up / take over a ‘beach-club / restaurant’ in a tropical country, but don’t know where to start.
Hi Eduard,
Make one decision. Which country. Or which type of restaurant. Or when it’s gonna be launched. Anything.
One. Decision. At. A. Time.
Hug, Nisandeh